You say you love the rain, but you open your umbrella. You say you love the sun, but you find the shadow spot. You say you love the wind, but you close the windows. This is why I am afraid, you say that you love me too…
If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by….
What is the difference between “I like you” and “I love you”? When you “like” a flower, you just pluck it; but when you “love” a flower, you water it daily: One who understands this, understands life…..
Do you know the difference between “loving someone” and “being in love?” No? Let me tell you. “Loving someone” is selfish. “Being in love” with someone is selfless. Let me explain. When you “love” someone, you don’t listen. You care more about your love for them and your happiness that you disregard what they want, their needs. When you are “in love”, their happiness is your happiness. You listen carefully to what they want and need and you give it to them, even if that means giving them up….
Some people are good at “being in love”. Some people are good at “love”. Two very different things. I think. “Being in love” is the romantic part - sex all the time, midday naps in the sheets, the jokes, the laughs, the fun, long conversation with no pauses, overwhelming separation anxiety… Just the best sides of both people, you know? But “love” begins when the excitement of being in love starts to fade; the stress of life sets in, the butterflies disappear, the sex becomes a chore, the tears, the sadness, the arguments, the cattiness… The worst parts of both people. But if you still want that person by your side through all of those things… that’s when you know - that’s when you know you’re good at love…..
They say love is blind. I disagree. Infatuation is blind. Love is all-seeing and accepting. Love is seeing all the flaws and blemishes and accepting them. Love is accepting the bad habits and mannerisms and working around them. Love is recognizing all the fears and insecurities and knowing your role is to comfort. Love is working through all the challenges and painful times. Infatuation is fragile and will shatter when life is not perfect. Love is strong and it strengthens because it is real….
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