Help me! fu-fu genka to the police
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komatta
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無回答 2003/02/21 09:37:54
Last night my husband and I fought over a problem we have been having since we met.
He was drunk and I was losing my temper. I started throwing things to the wall and the floor. I couldn’t help but screamed. I felt so helpless and powerless that it seems my frustration went over the limit. I threw a small ring box and a couple of candles. He shouted at me and said he would divorce me.
Then my husband grabbed the phone and called the police. I didn’t know what he was doing. That was another fighting to me because we have been fighting since we got married. The police arrived and one officer asked me what happpend. The other officer talked to my husband outside.
After 30minutes or so, they went back and I went to bed in the bed room and he in the living room.
We fight mostly over his drinking too much and his lying about drinking. But last night was my fault. I provoked him knowing he was drunk.
Does any one know about counselling about anger management?
Thank you for your advice. I need to do something about my temper. I can still control what and where to throw but it is a terrible habit to throw whatever it is. When he and I argue and I can not make myself understand in English, I come to extremely frustrated. He swears a lot at me when we argue and that makes me feel small.
I haven’t talked to my husband since last night. I am almost scared even to see him.
ご主人も、酒癖を直す必要があるとおもいます、 his drinking too much and his lying about drinking. とあるところから、生活全体に支障があるとはいえませんが、ALCHOLICといえるとおもいます、 ALCOHOLIC ANONYMOUS(AA)のグループセッションに夫婦そろっていかれてはどうでしょう? 電話帳のホワイトページでALCOHOLIC ANONYMOUSで調べれば、近くで行われるセッションの情報を得られると思います ご主人が、AAにもし行く事を拒むようでしたら、とぴ主さんだけでもいってみる事をお勧めします、どういう対応をしたら良いのか知る事ができますよ、
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komatta
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無回答 2003/02/21 18:17:18
Thank you very much for your advice.
My husband and I talked about what we want to do. He bought a book about anger/fear management for me and one about moderate drinking for himself. We also discussed going to a counselor.
It doesn’t seem he is alcoholic but he likes drinking and socializing. His drinking is cut down a lot compair to before and I apprerciate that. It seems he can control alcohol.
I decided to get married to him knowing he likes drinking. I just can’t leave this marriage without trying anything. I have been frustrated because of my status in Canada. It seems it will take for a while to get a permanent resident status, not being covered by BC medical until then or having have to wait for three months etc....
By the way, what is the difinition of alcoholic, I wonder?