Dear ABBY; I am the other woman you rarely hear from. I had an affair with a married man and married him after he divorced his wife. Please warn your female readers that even when an affair leads to marridge, it is not going to be what they expect. My husband and I have been married nearly 9 years. My husband is selfish and cares only about his own needs. His ex-wife still won’t speak to me(not that I want her to),and their son barely acknoledges my existance. All I feel is guilt over breaking up their marridge. So, if any of your readers are dating a married man--give them this warning: Run for your life now! He may seem sweet, but that is only because he likes the chase. Once hooked, you will be treated the same way he treats his present wife. --SORRY FOR EVERYTHING DEAR SORRY: Oh, the lessons that people learn too late. I find it interesting that you describe only men as craving the thrill of the chase. Women, too, get caught up in the excitement of seducing another woman’s husband. They usually wind up with less than they hoped and more than they bargained for.