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日本人女性好きのカナダ人EX・・・
by 無回答 from 無回答 2012/09/17 13:38:56

EXは出会う前から別れてからも日本人の女性とだけ付き合っています。日本語は出来ません。ベビーシッター、language exchange等、とにかく日本人とデートをできる機会を探しています。EXだから私には関係ないのでしょうが、子供がいて、子供が色んな日本人女性の話をします。同じベッドで寝た人とか、朝シャワーを浴びていたとか・・・気にしないように努力していますが、何だか悲しいです。子供がこの前、「すごくきれいな日本人のお姉さんが私のお母さんになってくれるってパパが言ってた」とも言いました。かなしい・・・




【PR】ベビーシッター探しで困ったらここ


Res.1 by 無回答 from バンクーバー 2012/09/17 14:17:52

EXさん、とても日本女性がすきなんだな。いつも日本人のガールフレンドがいてうらやましいな。日本人女がかんたんに股を開けちゃうEXさんは日本人女好みのイケメンで金持ちなんだろうな。それでトピさんはなぜ別れたの? それとも捨てられたの?

Res.2 by 無回答 from バンクーバー 2012/09/17 14:28:15

>日本人女がかんたんに股を開けちゃうEXさんは日本人女好みのイケメンで金持ちなんだろうな。

私日本人女性ですが、イケ面金持ちでなくても、白人ならやらせていますよ。
Res.3 by 無回答 from 無回答 2012/09/17 20:42:24

バンクーバーサンの記事です。日本人はこの傾向があるからJerkと結婚する可能性が高いですね。

How not to marry a jerk

Therapist suggests no touching in those early dating days

BY JOANNE LAUCIUS, POSTMEDIA NEWS SEPTEMBER 17, 2012



Ottawa marriage and relationship therapist Martin Rovers has delivered a few bits of advice in his Relationships Matter lecture series that women have found a little hard to accept.

Take his advice on touching.

"Don't touch too soon. Wait at least three months," he advised last year in one of his lectures.

In fact, touch is the fifth step in a fivestep progression, says Rovers, a psychologist. The progression starts with talk and moves on to trust, reliability and commitment.

A woman in the front row was aghast at Rovers' three-month limit and told him so.

"What? If I waited three months, I would never get a second date," she said.

"Do you get many third dates?" responded Rovers, who argues that it's always easier to touch than to talk, but not very productive for budding relationships.

(By the way, a widely discussed study in the August edition of The Journal of Family and Marriage of couples who are married or live together concluded that women who dated for at least 182 days before jumping into bed reported higher levels of satisfaction, commitment, sexual satisfaction and other good stuff from the relationship. That's six months.)

Rovers' wife, Elizabeth Hauptman Rovers, says the aim of the lecture series is to introduce people to help for relationship problems, especially those who find therapy too expensive.

At the end of the lectures, there is usually a lively question and answer session and the therapist suggests a list of books available at the library.

One of the most popular topics was "how to avoid marrying a jerk."

Rovers, who is contemplating a lecture on "what to do when you're married to a jerk," says the term can be both feminine as well as a masculine. But three-quarters of jerks just happen to be men. They're not necessarily mean, just wounded.

"A lot of the people who come are singles. About 80 or 90 per cent are women," he says.

"There are people who are afraid of therapy."

Men, in particular. The lectures are one way for men to hear about the topics in a less-intimidating venue where they don't to have to commit to therapy.

"There are some men who will say 'Do you think I'm crazy?' A lot of women say they want counselling, but their husbands won't go," says Rovers.

He can understand why men are a little leery.

"There are way too many fingers pointing at men. They think the therapist will point another finger at them." Rovers is kicking off another series this month with a talk on "appreciating your partner's way of loving."

The language of love is different for men and for women. Expecting most men to devise a plan to go to the park for a romantic candlelight picnic is a bridge too far for men, he says.

"Men consider acts of service to (be) the language of love. For women, it's intimacy and quality time. Men want to be appreciated," he says.

"If you want intimacy, don't marry a man."



Read more: http://www.vancouversun.com/marry+jerk/7252368/story.html#ixzz26mzTGjtm
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