別に主人を愛していないわけではない。ただ、子どもが出来てから、妻である前に母になってしまっただけ。でも、外出したときなど、５０代、６０代と見られるご夫婦が仲良く手をつないで歩いていたりするのを見るとあこがれる。
でも、Hug & Kissが面倒に思うときもある。
結婚前の、あのワクワクドキドキ感が懐かしい、、、
はぁ、、、、

気持ちよく判ります〜！私も結婚前のラブラブ時に、とまでいかなくても年を取ってから仲良く手をつないで歩いているカップルさんのようになりたい・・・

レディファーストで奥さんをエスコートしているご年配のダンナさんを見てるとすっごく微笑ましくて幸せな気持ちになる。

ダンナみてますかーーー！？私も女なんですよーー！

私のダーリンは、レディファーストはもちろんのこと、夜は疲れただろ？っといって、足をマッサージしてくれます。結婚１５年です。

バンクーバーサンに書いてありました。

Mutual gratitude seen as key to nurturing marital harmony

’It’s quite possible that being happier in the relationship causes you to be more grateful’

BY SHANNON PROUDFOOT, POSTMEDIA NEWS JANUARY 7, 2011


A grateful marriage is a happy one, new research suggests -- but you don’t have to actually say thank you to your spouse.

There’s plenty of research on how marriages fail but little on how they can be made to work, how couples can maintain their newlywed affection, says Cameron Gordon, an assistant psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, Wilmington and lead author of a new study.

"We know much more about couples that hate each other than we do about couples who are really doing it well," he says.

"I like to focus my energy on trying to figure out really happy couples, and it seemed like gratitude was an important area that hadn’t been studied before."

The study, published in an upcoming issue of the journal Personality and Individual Differences, included 50 couples who were together an average of 20.7 years, with participants ranging in age from 21 to 67. Gordon and his co-authors asked them to fill out a daily questionnaire for two weeks and then examined the connection between their feelings of gratitude, their expressions of thanks to their partner and their overall satisfaction with their relationship.

There were unexpected results when it came to expressing gratitude or merely feeling it: both are connected with a person’s own relationship satisfaction, the study found, but the same isn’t true for their partner’s happiness.

"If you feel grateful, your spouse is more likely to rate being happy in the relationship, even though you’re not necessarily expressing it," Gordon says. "I was very surprised to find that expressing gratitude to your spouse doesn’t seem to be very strongly associated with the spouse’s relationship satisfaction."

Longtime couples might not even notice each other’s words of thanks because they blend into habitual communication, Gordon says -- or they might hear something more sinister.

"It may be that if you say thank you to your spouse 20 years from now, he or she may perceive that as anything from, ’Gosh, this person really appreciates me’ to, ’Oh, this person is finding a manipulative, underhanded way to insult me,’" he says. " ’Thanks for doing the dishes’ might be perceived as, ’Wow, it took you a really long time to do those dishes!’ "

This study demonstrates that gratitude is associated with a happy marriage, not that one causes the other, Gordon cautions, but he suspects the goodwill generated by grateful spouses creates a "reciprocal feedback loop" of marital harmony, helping spouses interpret even grumpy days in a more positive light.

"It’s quite possible that being happier in the relationship causes you to be more grateful, just as being more grateful causes you to be happier in your relationship," he says. "The upshot is gratitude can go hand-in-hand with marital satisfaction, and the

more appreciative you are, the happier you’ll be."

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